Sunday, June 3, 2012

The Triggers of Mind Control

The Triggers of Mind Control

By Paul J. Mascetta / Creator of The Code of Influence

People are everywhere. That's why being persuasive determines how effective
we are. Where we live, what we do, and even who we love involves influence
on one level or another. And by learning the art of "dealing with and
convincing people to do what you want them to do", we can instantly improve
our lives.

Emotion vs. Logic

With so much information around us and so many decisions to make every
single day, there isn't enough time to evaluate everything rationally. And
so we rely on subconscious shortcuts to make things easier. This is why, as
irrational beings, we're susceptible to mental triggers.

"People are definitely more likely to believe what you say, based on logic,"
Paul Mascetta teaches, "but ultimately it is their emotion that will move
them to take action."

10 Proven Tactics to Gain Compliance from Others

So, how can we take advantage of this in order to be more persuasive?
Triggers of Mind Control lists each of the tactics in turn:

1. Obligation/Reciprocity

"People generally feel obligated to return favours or good deeds that have
been done to them by others." Just look at how we smile at strangers who
smile at us first! Make sure you know what to offer and ensure it will be on
the same level of what you expect in return.

2. Contrast

"The perception of something changes when it is compared to something else."

This is why a pair of $100 jeans looks like a bargain if it was marked down
from $500 or why a realtor might show you a really ugly house before showing
you a better one.

Another approach here is to break something down to the minimum ("$2.50 per
day" sounds better than "$75 per month") or make concessions by starting at
a much higher price and then working down to what you actually want.

3. Internal Conflict

"We must act in a way that is conducive to our morals and beliefs." Behaving
against what we feel is right is something we struggle with. It makes us
feel unbalanced, which is why we'll do whatever we can to restore our moral

We do this in many ways including rationalisation (justifying our behaviour
to make ourselves feel better), denial (pretending the problem doesn't exist
or the source isn't reliable), correction (finding evidence to support why
the information we received is inaccurate), reframing (interpreting the
meaning behind the message in a different way), and separation (distancing
themselves from events or matters that are causing the internal conflict).

4. Connection

"The link that exists between others can be enough to create the emotional
need to act." When creating a connection, the four factors involved are:

  - Rapport – This is created primarily through body language techniques

  like subtly mirroring and matching what the other person does

  - Attraction – While physical aspects (including wardrobe and grooming)

  are noticed first and matter initially, nonphysical aspects like

  intelligence and warmth are more important in the long run.

  - People Skills – Humour (when used correctly) and respect

  - Similarity – We can think and act like people who share similarities

  (background, interests, values, etc) without worrying about internal conflicts

5. Proof

"We believed that if it worked before, it will probably work again." Instead
of investingtime and effort to determine if a decision is right, we simply
turn to other people. This is why statistics (e.g. "over 1 million copies
sold") can be so powerful, especially when the group referred to is one with
which we can identify. Just remember to stick to third party evidence (from
someone with knowledge or expertise) and information that is up to date.

6. Scarcity

"The less available something becomes, the more people want it." This is one
of the most obvious and also one of the most powerful. Restricting freedom
or placing limitations on availability (e.g. playing hard to get when
dating) creates a sense of urgency. And as long as there's a deadline (e.g.
the Groupon countdown clock!), the more incentive there is to act right away.

7. Verbiage

"Sometimes it's not what you say, it's how you say it." Reframe your words
to use the best possible ones in a given situation. For example, "more
activity" sounds better than "crowded" and "membership agreement" sounds
better than "contract". Other suggestions are to speak slowly, simply, and
clearly with sentences that are short and to the point. Storytelling and
analogies also help with understanding.

8. Expectations

"People generally act in a way that other people expect them to." These
expectations are usually based on our assumptions.

9. Association/References

"People make mental associations with everything they see." Again, this is
about saving time and effort by using mental shortcuts.

10. Commitment

"People usually follow through on commitments, especially when they are
public." Nobody wants to go against their values or be seen as flaky. This
is why having people to commit to something publically (e.g. having friends
hold them accountable to their goals or immediately making a purchase so
they are mentally vested and reluctant to change) is powerful.

The idea is to start with smaller requests (more likely to be accepted) and
then gradually build up to larger ones. Just make sure the commitments are
voluntary because forcing people to do what you want will only introduce
more conflict and make them revert to old behaviour. As Confucius said: "Do
not impose on others what you yourself do not desire."

Edited by: Lawyer Asad

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