By Steve G. Jones, Clinical Hypnotherapist Creator of NLP Master Practitioner Training Program
Isn't it amazing how you can stop a 200 ton boat dead in its tracks by
simply dropping an anchor into the sea? Anchors are extremely powerful
and useful when it comes to keeping things in place and preventing
them from drifting away.
Well what if I told you there was a way to do this with your positive emotions?
We've all had time in our lives when we felt more confident, more
powerful and more skilled in a certain area.
And we've all certainly had those times were we felt like no matter
what we tried, nothing seemed to work. Did you ever notice that in
both positive and negative mind states, we seem to build momentum in
In other words, when we're in a state of positivity, we just seem to
build on that and enter what is known as the "zone". And when we're in
a state of negativity, we feel like "when it rains, it pours".
Let's talk about positivity for a moment.
I can't think of a better example of someone being in the "zone" then
Reggie Miller in the game-winning performance that he put on during
game five in the 1994 NBA playoffs against the New York Knicks.
Coming into the game, the Indiana Pacers had lost 11 straight games at
Madison Square Garden; but this game would be different.
In the fourth quarter of the game, Reggie scored 25 of his total 39
points and nailed five 3 pointers leading his team to a 93 – 86 win.
Keep in mind, the Pacers also came into this quarter down by 12
This kind of positive momentum takes place in people's lives all the
time, the problem is that most people don't know how to consciously
make it happen whenever they want.
They know the feeling when they experience it and they know they're in
the zone but very few people can actually get into that state whenever
But there is a short-cut to the "zone" and it's a very well-known and
powerful NLP technique called anchoring.
Anchoring will basically allow you to effectively achieve the positive
mental state of being in the zone and then remain in that place just
as an anchor holds a ship in place.
Anchoring is a very useful tool. As the word implies, anchoring has to
do with setting something up that will take firm hold in place. What
makes anchors so powerful is that you can use them to hold positive
mental states in place including confidence, attraction, intelligence,
humor, etc. But you can also anchor alders to you to prevent them from
Anchors are also talk to the concepts around you and when bringing all
of these elements together, you can achieve things like making someone
think you are funny even if you are generally not a funny person.
How to Anchor Confidence
You can also anchor someone into thinking that you are extremely
confident; here's how:
Anchoring yourself with confidence happens alone. When you anchor
someone to yourself, that happens with someone else.
Do not do this while driving, but what I would like you to do is to
close your eyes and remember the time when you were confident. It can
Examples are a birthday party, walking across the road and doing a
good dead or anything else -- even something very basic -- that you
can pick out that made you feel confident.
With your eyes closed, I'd like you to remember yourself in that situation.
Whatever was going on is going on now in your mind. Paint the scene;
see the colors and the people, if there are any. Smell the scent in
the air. Does it smell good or bad? Does it smell like you are indoors
or outdoors, like something new or old? Perhaps you just smell the
clean air? What do you hear? Are people applauding, talking? Are their
other sounds like those of birds?
Most importantly, how do you feel? How does it feel emotionally? Pretty good?
Of course you do because you accomplished something and that feels
good. It does not have to be an accomplishment; it can simply be that
today I feel good.
I have some sunglasses on, my hair is fixed up just so and I am
wearing certain clothes as I sit in a nice car. I feel good. It can be
anything but you are there now, in your memory. At that time when you
felt really good, you felt confident.
Notice the calmness that comes with that. Once we accomplish something
and feel good, we can relax and think that we are worthy and we are a
good person. Just kind of soak that in now and feel how good that is.
I now want you to turn everything upside down a bit -- the sounds, the
smells and everything. Feel it more intensely and feel the clothes on
your body. You notice how we are using the three major
representational systems, auditory, visual and kinesthetic. Something
to see, hear and feel inside and out.
Also, pay attention to the odors and any other senses that you want.
Make everything intense now and especially that sense of feeling good.
It feels good to be you right in this moment in your memory. Feel the
moment more intensely.
Good. What I want you to do is make the OK sign with your right hand.
That means touching the tip of your right index finger to the tip of
your right thumb, as if you were saying 'okay' to someone.
I want you to also say the word 'power' and to do that now. Good. I
want you to slowly open your eyes. What we've done is installed an
anchor for confidence. The next time you feel the lack of power or
confidence in any situation, all you have to do is make the okay
symbol with your right hand and say the word power. That feeling of
confidence will come back to you.
Steve G. Jones is a board certified Clinical Hypnotherapist who works
extensively with Hollywood actors, writers, directors, and producers,
helping them achieve their very best. Learn more about Steve G.
Jones's NLP courses, approved by the American University of NLP,
Edited by: Lawyer Asad