Have you ever been with a guy who seems afraid to
commit?
Maybe you've dated a guy for years and he just
never seems to want to take things to the next level.
Or perhaps you're married, and while he wears the
ring on his finger ... His heart just hasn't made that
commitment yet and you feel your marriage isn't on
solid ground.
In today's newsletter I'm going to try my best to
shed some light on how the male mind works and why
some men are not ready for commitment.
But first, if you haven't watched this video yet, make
sure you watch it right away:
It's a really accurate and eye-opening short video
that shows you why men lose interest in women they
once loved, and how to make him LOVE you forever.
Don't miss it.
Now, back to today's newsletter... Why are some men
scared of commitment?
There are 9 main reasons why your man may not want to
commit to you. Some of these have nothing to do with
you, it's just where he is at in his life. Others
are things that you are doing, so make sure you pay
close attention.
* You're hinting too aggressively
Men need to feel like commitment is their idea, even
if pressuring them into committing to you works (some
women hint very aggressively until they get engaged),
this may lead to resentment and lack of REAL commitment
and faithfulness long term.
I've seen some guys date girls for 3+ years, only to
get engaged to the next one who comes along even though
they've only been dating for 6 months.
Often the next one who comes along is seen as less
'suffocating' due to less commitment pressure. Or it's
simply due to the fact that they are now ready for
commmitment when in the past they were not.
Hinting or talking about commitment once isn't a bad
thing, but if you find yourself doing it week in, week
out, it's likely to be doing more harm than good. You
may simply be with the wrong person if you feel a need
for more commitment right now.
If he wants to commit to you, then allow him to get to
that stage on his own.
* You don't support his ambitions and/or don't make him
feel appreciated enough
Men need their egos stroked, and for him to feel like
you are 'the one' it will help a lot if you can notice
all the good things he does (and his body if you like
it, etc).
It is also incredibly important that you don't try to
change him too much, support him in his dreams, whatever
they may be (starting his own company, travelling the
world, etc).
It sounds obvious, but there are a lot of women out there
who try to mould their man into the man they wished they
were, rather than supporting them in being the best
version of themselves that they can be.
* He hasn't grown up enough yet.
Men can take a little longer to grow up than women.
It takes a certain amount of maturity to get to the
point of commitment, and he may not be quite there
yet. An immature man can rarely consider the wants and
needs of others above his own.
* The sex isn't good enough
If he has had a partner before with whom with the sex
was better, or more frequent, this can make him nervous
about committing to you forever.
If you feel that sex isn't important, then that attitude
could well be a reason for lack of long term commitment.
* There's someone else.
Hopefully this isn't the case, but it is possible he has
someone else on his mind, leaving him confused about
what kind of future he wants for you and him.
It is also possible he is not over his ex partner, or
doesn't see you as better than them (men want to commit
to the best they've ever had).
* He has other priorities.
He balances out everything- work, family, and friends.
If he feels he's got other areas in his life that
require more attention, then that will come first and
he will think of you later.
* His close friends haven't committed yet.
The majority of men will want to commit eventually. But
he may not have wanted to be the first one out of his
group of friends, feeling like he misses out on anything
with his single friends.
* Loss of free time.
He likes time to himself and to do his own thing. Serious
relationships take up an enormous amount of time and
energy and he doesn't want that kind of pressure.
* His history.
When you learn about his past relationships, and his
childhood ones, then you may understand why he can't commit
to you.
He could be swearing off new relationships because of pain
that was caused by a previous breakup. He may need a little
extra time until he feels safe in his new relationship with
you.
I hope you found great value in today's newsletter.
Make sure you also watch the video below as soon as possible:
I'm not sure how long this will be online and it's a must
watch short video that shows you why men pull away and how
to be the woman that he'll fall in love with forever.
Yours in Numbers,
Mike Madigan
Circulated by: Lawyer Asad
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