Thursday, October 25, 2012

9 Reasons He Avoids Commitment (just for women)

9 Reasons He Avoids Commitment (just for women)

Have you ever been with a guy who seems afraid to 

Maybe you've dated a guy for years and he just
never seems to want to take things to the next level.

Or perhaps you're married, and while he wears the
ring on his finger ... His heart just hasn't made that
commitment yet and you feel your marriage isn't on
solid ground.

In today's newsletter I'm going to try my best to
shed some light on how the male mind works and why
some men are not ready for commitment.

But first, if you haven't watched this video yet, make
sure you watch it right away:

 Video - Why Men Lose Interest

It's a really accurate and eye-opening short video 
that shows you why men lose interest in women they
once loved, and how to make him LOVE you forever.

Don't miss it.

Now, back to today's newsletter... Why are some men 
scared of commitment?

There are 9 main reasons why your man may not want to
commit to you. Some of these have nothing to do with
you, it's just where he is at in his life. Others 
are things that you are doing, so make sure you pay
close attention.

* You're hinting too aggressively

Men need to feel like commitment is their idea, even
if pressuring them into committing to you works (some
women hint very aggressively until they get engaged), 
this may lead to resentment and lack of REAL commitment
and faithfulness long term.

I've seen some guys date girls for 3+ years, only to 
get engaged to the next one who comes along even though
they've only been dating for 6 months.

Often the next one who comes along is seen as less
'suffocating' due to less commitment pressure. Or it's
simply due to the fact that they are now ready for
commmitment when in the past they were not.

Hinting or talking about commitment once isn't a bad
thing, but if you find yourself doing it week in, week
out, it's likely to be doing more harm than good. You
may simply be with the wrong person if you feel a need
for more commitment right now.

If he wants to commit to you, then allow him to get to
that stage on his own.

* You don't support his ambitions and/or don't make him
feel appreciated enough

Men need their egos stroked, and for him to feel like
you are 'the one' it will help a lot if you can notice
all the good things he does (and his body if you like
it, etc).

It is also incredibly important that you don't try to
change him too much, support him in his dreams, whatever
they may be (starting his own company, travelling the 
world, etc).

It sounds obvious, but there are a lot of women out there
who try to mould their man into the man they wished they
were, rather than supporting them in being the best
version of themselves that they can be.

* He hasn't grown up enough yet.

Men can take a little longer to grow up than women.

It takes a certain amount of maturity to get to the 
point of commitment, and he may not be quite there 
yet. An immature man can rarely consider the wants and 
needs of others above his own.

* The sex isn't good enough

If he has had a partner before with whom with the sex 
was better, or more frequent, this can make him nervous
about committing to you forever.

If you feel that sex isn't important, then that attitude
could well be a reason for lack of long term commitment.

* There's someone else.

Hopefully this isn't the case, but it is possible he has 
someone else on his mind, leaving him confused about 
what kind of future he wants for you and him.

It is also possible he is not over his ex partner, or
doesn't see you as better than them (men want to commit
to the best they've ever had).

* He has other priorities.

He balances out everything- work, family, and friends.

If he feels he's got other areas in his life that 
require more attention, then that will come first and 
he will think of you later. 

* His close friends haven't committed yet.

The majority of men will want to commit eventually. But 
he may not have wanted to be the first one out of his 
group of friends, feeling like he misses out on anything 
with his single friends.

* Loss of free time.

He likes time to himself and to do his own thing. Serious 
relationships take up an enormous amount of time and 
energy and he doesn't want that kind of pressure.

* His history.

When you learn about his past relationships, and his 
childhood ones, then you may understand why he can't commit 
to you.

He could be swearing off new relationships because of pain 
that was caused by a previous breakup. He may need a little 
extra time until he feels safe in his new relationship with 

I hope you found great value in today's newsletter.

Make sure you also watch the video below as soon as possible:

 Video - Why Men Lose Interest

I'm not sure how long this will be online and it's a must
watch short video that shows you why men pull away and how
to be the woman that he'll fall in love with forever.

Yours in Numbers,

Mike Madigan

Circulated by: Lawyer Asad

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