2011 A lot of people are not aware that there is a secret to not failing. That secret is very simple – stop thinking about yourself. Stop thinking about how you can achieve your goals. I know that this is very contradictory to what most speakers and trainers have been teaching you. There are so many courses out there that encourage you to think about how you can achieve things or how you can live the life that you want.
Well, what I want you to do now is to just put those thoughts on hold for a while as you read this. Here's a very simple exercise you can do (just be honest with yourself)…
Whenever you are trying to achieve success, regardless of what you are doing, whether it's relationships, financial wealth, improving your career or growing your business, you are always thinking about you. It's all about YOUR goal, YOUR business, YOUR success, YOUR wealth, etc. Even if you say that's not true, subconsciously, that's what your brain is thinking. Let's face the fact. It's always about you. That's why nobody's helping you to achieve success.
Imagine this. You attend a seminar about becoming a millionaire. You approach the speaker and start telling him about your goals, how you want to live in your dream house, drive a big car or own your own jet. Then you ask him to help you. Do you think he's going to help you? He could, but let's look at things more realistically. You tell him about the things that YOU want to achieve and then you ask him to help you so that you can achieve what you want to achieve. Ask yourself if he's going to help you again. Let me give you another example. Let's say you want to get a bank loan. You talk to the bank loan officer who is the person who will approve your loan. You talk about how much money you want to make with your business and the things that you are going to do with the money. Will you get your loan by telling him all about you? How about start talking about how the bank's going to make money by giving you their Here's a final example… You want to marry a girl.
This has nothing to do with wealth or fame and fortune. You tell her that you want to marry her because of how much she loves you. That's not wrong but I don' t see how that's going to excite her. It's like me saying that I want to be your friend because you are nice to me.
Are we missing something here? What about the other party's emotions and thoughts? If you live in your self contained world of your own success and dreams, you're going to leave out a We always think of ourselves because it's our natural tendency. We love ourselves and there' s nothing wrong with that too. I mean, our brain functions that way! So every thought that comes out is always about us. Our brain always protects us. It always wants the best for us. However, other people's brain functions that way as well. The brain of the millions of people around the world functions that way as well so they always think about themselves. So if you don't want to fail in whatever it is you do, change your mindset. Think of what you can do for others. Whenever you want to achieve something, be aware of your thoughts. What are you thinking? What are your manifesting? Then think of what you can do for other people in order to get what you want. The principle here is to get what you want by helping others to get what they want. When you do that, you will see so much more success in your life. Of course in reality, we can' t practice this all the time. It has to make sense to a certain level. This secret of success applies whenever you find yourself in a disadvantage position compared to the person whose helping Let's say I want to be business partners with Bill Gates. I'm obviously in a less favorable position than he is and if that's the case, I should be thinking of how I can benefit him first in order for me to achieve my own goal. Whether it's a partnership or in an office environment where you're trying to get someone to do something for you, think about this and you'll get a paradigm shift in your way of doing things. However, don't go around doing things for people to get what you want all the time because you'll be drained.
On a final note, remember that you CANNOT ACHIEVE SUCCESS ON YOUR OWN. Maybe you can but you'll be exhausted. Wealth is created when you work with other people who have their own needs and desires. If you have your own way to help others to achieve their own needs and desires, you've just opened the path to riches for yourself.
Edited by: Lawyer Asad