Human nature tends to let down it's guard and act it's worst around those who we are most familiar with. How you really are is the way you act towards others that you know the best which are typically those of your own home.
The following are tips for husbands and wives that I have been working on in my own home, and I hope you find them helpful.
*1.* Tell your spouse I love you each and every single day.
*2.* Always say please and thank you.
*3.* Never demand anything one of another, but ask kindly with respect like you would from anyone else out side the home.
*4.* Husbands, you don't own your wife, so don't act like it. Don't be bossy and overbearing and order them around like a slave. Support them as the physically weaker vessel and love them and give yourself for them like Christ gave himself for the church
Wives submit to your own husband in temporal matters as it is fitting in the Lord , however, in spiritual matters Christ is your head not your husband.
Men are not the head of women but husbands are the head of their wives (the relationship denotes the headship is concerning temporal matters). Christ is head of the Church (the relationship denotes Christ is the head of women concerning spiritual matters) and in Christ Jesus there is neither male or female
*5.* Wives don't nag your husbands. If they have been too busy to get
something done that is important to you, and you have already asked them a number of times, try asking them after you have done something nice for them. Or ask if there is anything you can do to help them get started on their project. You will find this goes over much better then telling them I have been asking for two months now to fix the leaking tap. When are you
ever going to get this done? It is so hard to get you to do anything around here!
*6.* Husband, thank your wife for each meal, when laundry is done and for how well your clothes have been folded, and when the home is cleaned and what a clean house she keeps. Wives, when you husband fixes something around the home thank him, and when he brings home his check tell him what a good
provider he is.
*7.* Each day ask the other if there is anything you can do for them.
*8.* You both need to be patient with eachother's weaknesses and faults. You should not make a practice of pointing out eachothers faults over and over.
Remember that love will cover a multitude of faults. Deal with the other's faults the way you want them to deal with yours.
*9.* Be always seeking what you can put into the marriage not what you can get out of it.
*10.* Make a practice of trying to give into eachother when there are
differences. That way when you really feel strong about something, your spouse will not have such a hard time giving into you.
*11.* Pray daily for each other and carry a burden for eachother's spiritual welfare.
*12.* Have family devotions together each morning even if it is only 5 or 10 minutes.
*13.* Keep a list of the things your spouse asks you to do on the cork
board. When you spouse asks you to do something make sure you put it on your list and put a date beside it so you know how long it has been there. Cross off the items on the list as you do them. It is okay to offer to do something on your list if your spouse will do something on their list.
*14.* Never discuss each others past faults and mistakes in front of other
people. While your spouse may laugh along with you and not say anything about it later, you may have hurt them deep down.
*15.* Don't allow a disagreement to escalate into an argument and certainly not in public or in front of your children.
*16.* If you get into a charged disagreement with your spouse that digresses to a point where you are bringing up each others faults and failures, it is best to end the conversation with prayer and set a time to discuss the issue the following day. Before you enter into discussion you should lay some
guidelines for resolving conflicts. You should also pray apart to make sure you have grace and then pray together before you start the discussion and ask God to give you both grace to conduct the discussion in a godly manner.
Edited by: Lawyer Asad