Edited by: Lawyer Asad
I'm going to 'talk' about problems since most authors or gurus will
avoid this 'negative' discussion.
You see, problems can't be avoided in your life unless you're no longer living. To deal with problems that come up, you shouldn't seek to destroy them but to look at them as a chance to improve. Simply because, by defeating your problems, you will learn useful lessons.
Here are 6 ways how to treat your problems positively:
1. Never Feel Misfortune With Your Problems:
Always remember that the existence of a problem doesn't mean you ought to feel misfortunate or shamed. True, the problem might be the consequence of your poor judgment in decisions but regretting that won't help you to deal with the problem in front of you. My motto of wrong decisions in life is this… "Everything happens for a reason and the reason ALWAYS for my own good."
2. A Problem Means An Opportunity:
I know it's hard to accept this fact – our mind has its own game of
its own. But if you can shift your mindset into an 'opportunity'
mindset, you'll anticipate problems because it's now a chance for you
to learn something new or get over your weakness. Of course we don't
ask for problems to come into our life, but if we're going to get it,
might as well make the best out of it. If you're given a lemon, make a
lemonade out of it.
3. Be "Professional":
If the problem arises from others (which is very common), you must
stay strong not to be affected emotionally by it and don't let it to
enter you. Build up an invisible roadblock to stop the negativity
getting into your mind. It's not easy to do this because when others
are emotionally down, they'll subconsciously affect your emotion as well so if you're not strong, both of you will go 'down'. Detach yourself from the problem and treat the problem as an 'issue' rather
than something personal.
4. Look Beyond The Problem To See The Solution:
You can't solve your problem if you don't know what you're trying to
solve and seeing the problem already solved. Secondly, it helps in
terms of motivation because it's always more motivating when you're in a celebrative mood. Have you watch the movie Lord Of The Rings? If yes… remember how challenging it is for Frodo Baggins to destroy the Ring? His journey has so many obstacles and the only thing that gets him to continue is seeing how wonderful it'll be once the Ring is destroyed.
5. Stop Attracting Problems With Your Mind Power:
If you continue to get a new problem after a problem is solved, you might want to check how your mind is working. Believe it or not, these problems are the result of your inside and outer mental attitude. Call it "Law of Attraction", if you will. Have you heard of 'streak of bad luck'? I believe this is caused by your own mindset. Many people just
underestimate what they mind power is capable of.
6. Laugh At Your Problems:
Humor may be an effective counter poison to a lot of problems of the
mind. Next time when you have problems, smile or laugh. Of course your problems won't disappear but I can bet that you'll suddenly have more ideas on how to solve problems and also feel less stressful. You'll never know – it might just be the most beneficial "problem solver"
Last but not least, just think of others – others who are facing
bigger problems than you. You'll be gratitude that your "problem" of
unable to buy a new car is actually nothing compared to someone in
your city who doesn't even have a car to drive. Be gratitude with what
you have because even if you can't solve your problems, you still have
so many more material things and intangible wonders in your life.