There is a close association between personal charisma and success in
life. Probably 85 percent of your success and happiness will come from
your relationships and interactions with others. The more positively
others respond to you, the easier it will be for you to get the things
The Law of Attraction
In essence, when we discuss charisma, we are talking about the law of
attraction. This law has been stated in many different ways down through
the centuries, but it basically says that you inevitably attract into
your life the people and circumstances that harmonize with your dominant
You Are A Living Magnet
In a sense, you are a living magnet, and you are constantly radiating
thought waves, like a radio station radiates sound waves, that are
picked up by other people. Your thoughts, intensified by your emotions,
as radio waves are intensified by electric impulses, go out from you and
are picked up by anyone who is tuned in to a similar wavelength. You
then attract into your life people, ideas, opportunities, resources,
circumstances and anything else that is consistent with your dominant
frame of mind.
The law of attraction also explains how you can build up your levels of
charisma so that you can have a greater and more positive impact on the
people whose cooperation, support and affection you desire.
Perception is Everything
The critical thing to remember about charisma is that it is largely
based on perception. It is based on what people think about you. It is
not so much reality as it is what people perceive you to be. For
example, one person can create charisma in another person by speaking in
glowing terms about that person to a third party. If you believe that
you are about to meet an outstanding and important person, that person
will tend to have charisma for you.
Mother Teresa of Calcutta
One of the most charismatic people in the world was Mother Teresa of
Calcutta. In a physical sense, she was a quiet, elderly, frail woman in
poor health, and she wore a modest nun's habit. She might have been
ignored by a person passing her on the street, were it not for the
tremendous charisma she developed and for the fact that her appearance
was so well-known to so many people as a result.
How Would You Feel?
If someone told you that he was going to introduce you to a brilliant,
self-made millionaire who was very quiet and unassuming about his
success, you would almost naturally imbue that person with charisma, and
in his presence, you would not act the same as you would if you had been
told nothing at all. Charisma begins largely in the mind of the
Lasting charisma depends more upon the person you really are than upon
just the things you do.
Continually look for ways to improve other's perceptions of you so that
you can be more influential with them. Be a living magnet.
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into
First, be clear about the messages you are sending and the perceptions
you are creating in others. Are these perceptions consistent with the
impressions you want to make?
Second, see yourself and imagine yourself every day as an important
powerful and charming person. Treat others as you would if you were
already strong, famous and influential.
Fake it until you make it!