Four Steps to a Super Attitude.

Unexpected circumstances can be thrown at you, but what is the thing that counts most in these situations? What counts most is how you react to what happens to you, especially when you have unexpected problems of any kind.
Here are four things you can do to assure that your attitude is the very best it can be, under all circumstances.
Focus On the Future
First, whatever challenges you face, focus on the future rather than on the past. Instead of worrying about who did what and who is to blame, focus on where you want to be and what you want to do. Get a clear mental image of your ideal successful future, and then take whatever action you can to begin moving in that direction. Get your mind, your thoughts, and your mental images on the future.
Think About the Solution
Second, whenever you're faced with a difficulty, focus on the solution rather than on the problem. Think and talk about the ideal solution to the obstacle or setback, rather than wasting time rehashing and reflecting on the problem. Solutions are inherently positive, whereas problems are inherently negative. The instant that you begin thinking in terms of solutions, you become a positive and constructive human being.
Look For the Good
Third, assume that something good is hidden within each difficulty or challenge. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, a major proponent of positive thinking, once said, "Whenever God wants to give us a gift, he wraps it up in a problem." The bigger the gift you have coming, the bigger the problem you will receive. But the wonderful thing is that if you look for the gift, you will always find it.
Seek the Valuable Lesson
Fourth, assume that whatever situation you are facing at the moment is exactly the right situation you need to ultimately be successful. This situation has been sent to you to help you learn something, to help you become better, to help you expand and grow.
Decide to Be Positive
A Positive Mental Attitude is indispensable to your success. You can be as positive as you want to be if you will simply think about the future, focus on the solution and look for the good. If you do what other successful people do, if you use your mind to exert mental control over the situation, you will be positive and cheerful most of the time. And you will reap the benefits enjoyed by all successful people.
Action Exercises
Here are three steps you can take immediately to put these ideas into action:
First, become solution-oriented with every difficulty you face. Make a habit of looking for the answers to your questions, the solutions to your problems.
Second, seek for the valuable lesson in every adversity. Make a list of every idea or insight you can gain from every setback or difficulty.
Third, think on paper. Take some time to write out every detail of the problem, and then take the most logical next step to solve it.

Brian Tracy

Your Character is your key to success!

A person's character is the degree to which they live their life consistent with high, life-enhancing values. A person who lacks character is one who compromises on higher order values in favor of lower order expedience, or who has no values at all.
Your adherence to what you believe to be right and true is the real measure of the person you have become to this moment. Think about it. How would someone describe your character?
Define What "Excellence" Means to You
Let us say that one of your values is "excellence." Your definition of excellence could be, "Excellence means that I set the highest standards for myself in everything I do. I do my very best in every situation and under all circumstances. I constantly strive to be better in my work, and as a person in my relationships. I recognize that excellence is a life-long journey and I work every day to become better and better in everything I do."
Organize Your Actions
With a definition like this, you have a clear organizing principle for your actions. You have set a standard by which you can evaluate your behavior. You have created a framework within which you can make decisions. You have a measuring rod against which you can compare yourself in everything you do. You can continually grade your activities in terms of "more" or "less." You have a clear target to aim at and organize your work around.
Decide What You Want for Your Family
It's the same with each of your other values. If your value is your family, you could define this as, "The needs of my family take precedence over all other concerns. Whenever I have to choose between the happiness, health and well being of a member of my family, and any other interest, my family will always come first."
Keep Focused
From that moment onward, it becomes easier for you to choose. Your family comes first. Until you have fully satisfied the needs of your family, no other time requirement will side track you into a lower value activity.
Shape Your Own Character
The wonderful thing about values clarification is that it enables you to take charge of developing and shaping your own character. When your values and goals, your inner life and your outer life, are in complete alignment, you feel terrific about yourself. You enjoy high self-esteem. Your self-confidence soars.
When you achieve complete congruence between your values and your goals, like a hand in a glove, you feel strong, happy, healthy and fully integrated as a person. You develop a kind of courage that makes you completely unafraid to make decisions and take action. Your whole life improves when you begin living your life by the values that you most admire.
Action Exercises
Here are two things you can do to put this ideas into action immediately.
First, create a clear, written description of your values and what they mean to you. From that point on, resolve to live consistent with your own definition.
Second, discipline yourself to live in complete alignment with the values, virtues and qualities that are most important to you. This is the key to character.

Brian Tracy

Power Goals

Power Goals
At the age of 30, my life looked to others like "the picture of success" – an enviable career, lots of friends, and a great marriage. But on the inside I was hurting badly.
What I wanted more than anything else was to have a baby and the question why I couldn't became existential. Was I not supposed to be a mom? What did life have in mind for me, if not motherhood? Was it my relationship that was failing?
For the first time in my adult life, I had no control of my situation.
No matter how hard I tried, I could not influence the outcome. I was doing "everything" and investigating all possible solutions through doctors, homeopaths, blood tests, temperatures, psychics, adoption, and eventually IVF (In Vitro Fertilization). But all I got out of it was a horrible roller coaster ride of hormones, hopes, and grief.
My mind was overwhelmed with frustration and sadness, as my body rejected one egg after another.
I was too embarrassed to talk about it and I never shared how I really felt. I was happy for my friends when they had babies... but at the same time, I was crying my eyes out.
On top of this, I was in a job where I was working 60-100 hours per week, travelling 80% of my time, being so exhausted when I came home that there was no energy left.
My emotional life was a mess, strained to its limit.
Now, I was brought up in a demanding family... and all my life I had been driven by other people's high expectations. I started school one year early, and was sent away to boarding school in England at the tender age of 12.
The decision, of course, was not mine – and I was totally homesick, crying myself to sleep each night.
By the time my parents visited at mid-term, I had made up my mind to go home, and was waiting for them with my bags already packed. But my father ruled that I was to stay. The last thing he said was, "If you accomplish this, you will be able to accomplish anything in life." So I stayed.
I attended high school in the United States, and after graduating, I was accepted as the youngest student to the Stockholm School of Economics – where the highest grades are required. Once again, I was doing everything that was expected of me.
But were these my goals or somebody else's? Was it just the fact that, in my family, "everybody" had gone to that very same school, and many of my friends wanted to go there?
I was living a life without listening to my own voice or setting my own goals. I kept on doing everything that was expected of me and I did it without any type of reflection on what I REALLY wanted.
On one of my business trips, I met with a colleague and told him my story. He gave me a book on personal development and, for the first time, I started to reflect on my situation and my life. That was my turning point.
I started asking myself questions like: "Is this the life I have chosen, or has it been chosen for me?"... "What do I REALLY want in life?"... "Is this the relationship I want for the rest of my life?"... "Am I doing work that I love?"... "Where do I want to live?"... "Are my friends really friends that I can count on or are they just acquaintances?"
I finally realized that I had to take ACTIVE RESPONSIBILITY for my life. For the first time, I set goals that were truly my own, not influenced by others. They were big. They were bold. And they were even scary.
But they were mine, and they gave me a feeling of power I had never felt before, from just setting goals. So I called them my POWER Goals.
Since I started applying Power Goals to my life, I've become truly fulfilled. The first Power Goal resulted in the birth of my daughter, Alexandra – and like magic, I now have four wonderful children. Because of my second Power Goal, I am now remarried and in a true and loving relationship. My third Power Goal resulted in me leaving the corporate world, starting my own business, and now having full freedom of time, money, and location.
After my own experience, I started sharing the concept with others – using their successes and feedback to fine-tune my system. That allowed me to write, Power Goals: 9 clear steps to achieve life-changing goals.
So if you too have ever had thoughts like these:
·    I need to find some balance between work and the rest of my life.
·    The spark has gone out of my career – I feel like I'm meant to be doing something else.
·    I have so many big ideas, but I don't have a road-map on how to get there.
·    Am I working towards my own goals, or someone else's?
... then maybe you need to experience the life-changing magic of making your own POWER GOALS.
Christina Skytt

Edited by: Lawyer Asad

Why you're always angry?

Why you're always angry?

As you go about your daily life, take notice of how you relate with your family, friends, and co-workers.

What do you see - a kind, patient, caring person who goes out of her way to take other people's feelings into consideration?

Or do you find that you often feel on edge, tense, in a hurry, or downright angry toward others?

If the latter is the case, this article will help you focus on and clarify what you might be angry about.

Once you identify what's making you mad, you can proceed to a solution.

Consider these possible reasons for carrying around your anger:

1. You wish your life situation was different.

Are you living the life you truly want to live?

Have things turned out for you the way you always hoped or planned?

Or are the specifics of your life astoundingly different and maybe even disappointing from what you want your life to truly be?

* Make a plan today to change one thing that is important to you.

Follow your plan.

Then repeat, for just one thing at a time.

2. You're in an unhappy relationship.

For whatever the reasons, the two of you aren't relating very well.

Perhaps you argue frequently or you don't prefer the same things.

You might have even "checked out" of the relationship emotionally.

You're not quite sure how to change things so you simply get angry.

* Allowing yourself to honestly confront the truth will lead you to the life you seek.

3. You struggle to resolve an issue from your youth.

You find yourself often thinking of your dysfunctional family or how growing up the way you did seems to mark every day of your life.

Why did your father have to be an alcoholic?

How did your brother think it was okay to pick on you all those years?

* Unresolved family-of-origin issues often trigger angry feelings.

As you encourage yourself to face such issues, you'll be motivated to reach your own resolutions for a happier life.

4. You want to earn a college degree.

When you were in high school, it was your biggest dream that you'd go to college and become a teacher.

But life happened and you didn't do it.

It nags at you.

You always thought you'd do it but here you are, 10 years after high school graduation, and you don't have a college diploma.

* And you're upset with yourself that you've not made more of an effort to achieve your dream.

It's okay to dream and to even pursue what you want 10 years later.

Realizing such issues will logically help you figure out what to do about them.

5. You're disgusted about your lack of taking care of yourself.

You used to work out and keep your abs in shape.

But now, you wear floppy, too-big t-shirts to hide how out-of-shape you are.

You grab a fast-food meal on the way home from work and crash out on the sofa when you get home.

* Admitting to yourself what's going on will ignite your self-confidence to improve your personal habits.

6. You've become a person you don't know anymore.

Your life is on a path that you're unhappy with, yet you're confused about how to change it.

You care less and less about how you treat others, even those you love.

You're getting angrier every day.

* Recognize that you have the power to make any change you want.

7. You or someone close to you suffered a trauma.

Whenever a trauma occurs, the person's feelings are initially panic, fear, and maybe horror.

When the traumatic event ends, confusing and troubling feelings remain.

* You might think, "Why did it have to happen?"

It's difficult to accept that such a troubling event could occur.

But it did.

It makes you feel angry at the world.

One choice to move forward is to seek professional help.

If you find yourself feeling annoyed, frustrated, and angry frequently, it's probably time to reflect on what's really going on with you.

Determining why you're angry can be very helpful in knowing what to do to decrease your troublesome feelings.

Working through your anger will free you from your unhappiness.

Jonas L.

Edited by: Lawyer Asad