Thursday, April 30, 2015

The Power of Daydreaming

The Power of Daydreaming

By Maureen Hochdorf / Yahoo News

It's no secret that most of us daydream at least once throughout the day, but what you might not have known is that daydreaming is actually GOOD for your daily productivity.

The news we've all been waiting for — justification for having our heads in the clouds. No, I'm not talking about taking an all-expense paid vacation to Mt. Everest, but the daydreaming that takes us to Mr. Everest while looking out the window at the busy street below. You may be thinking, "Sure, tell that to my boss!", but I'm going to make it even easier for you… Send this post to your boss to read. (and I'll make sure my boss reads it too!)

Is Daydreaming Programmed Inside Us?

When researching for this post, I came across an extremely interesting study by two Harvard psychologists, who were investigating the relationship between our wandering minds and happiness. [So interesting, in fact, that I actually joined in their research.]

In order to do so, they created an iPhone app to collect a database of real-time reports of thoughts, feelings, and actions of a broad range of people as they went about their daily activities. The Track Your Happiness App sends notifications at completely random times of the day/night and asks you to answer certain questions, such as:

  • How are you feeling right now?

  • What are you doing right now?

  • Are you thinking about something other than what you're currently doing?

Power of DaydreamingFrom asking questions at various times and analyzing the answers, they were able to reveal 3 daydreaming facts:

  • Minds wander frequently, regardless of what we are doing… an astounding 46.9% of all cases.

  • Most minds were more likely to wander to pleasant topics (42.5% of samples) than to unpleasant topics.

  • What people were thinking about was a better predictor of their happiness than was what they were doing.

As you can see from the graph, a large portion of our daydreaming happens mostly when we are at work. So whether your boss likes it or not, daydreaming is going to happen. What he/she needs to realize is that it can really be a good thing. Let's see how:



Daydreaming Sparks Creativity

When was the last time your amazingly creative idea came from sitting at your desk? Personally, for me it doesn't happen much. If I need a burst of creativity and inspiration, the last place I get it is at my desk. And many successful companies realize this. Daydreaming – aka creative thinking – is a highly-valued trait, because it leads to highly-valuable ideas.

Take Google, for instance. Without a doubt we can say that Google is one of the most successful companies today, yet their employees have what is called "20 Percent Factor". 20% of their workday is allowed for whatever personal activity they deem important. (And from that 20%, Google has produced some amazing projects.) Not to mention services including a professional masseuse, a hair salon, and a gym to get the creativity pumpin'.

Richard Branson, founder of Virgin, is notorously famous for his "off the beaten path" ways, so it's not surprising that he gives his employees quite a great amount of freedom at work. His work philosphy is a bit different than the typical "slave driver" mentality. When describing the environment he provides at his company, Branson states,

"By giving employees the same freedoms that the senior managers and I give ourselves, our team can successfully take on projects that other brands can't, such as Virgin Galactic and Virgin Oceanic — tourism companies set to expand travel to space and the ocean depths. This policy also helps our employees to succeed because they can pursue their passions."

Both, Google and Virgin, are examples of companies who have turned daydreaming into a quality worthy of making an exceptional product. It's hard to argue with the fact that these two companies just might have opened the key to employee productivity, using creativity and freedom.

Daydreaming Can Boost Brain Power

Here's the proof we've all been dying to see! Actual scientific backup that gives us the ammo we need to let our brain wander from time to time. Drumroll…..

According to a study published by the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, daydreaming can acutally lead to a boost in brain power. Breaking down the findings into English we can all understand, here are a few highlights of the findings:

  • Mind wandering (daydreaming) evokes a unique mental state that may allow otherwise opposing networks in the brain to work together in cooperation.

  • Mind wandering (daydreaming) can be enhanced externally using brain stimulation, and the frontal lobes play a causal role in mind-wandering behavior.

And to quote Professor Moshe Bar, Scientist at Gonda Multidisciplinary Brain Research Center, Bar-Ilan University, who was involved in the research:

"This cross-brain involvement may be involved in behavioral outcomes such as creativity and mood, and may also contribute to the ability to stay successfully on-task while the mind goes off on its merry mental way."

Bottom Line: Daydreaming = Stimulation in the Brain = More Creativity

How to Effectively Implement Daydreaming at Work

Now that we see how important daydreaming can be for our creativity and brain stimulation, the question is: How do we integrate daydreaming moments into our workday (without getting caught deeply staring into nowhere)?

For those of us not working at Google or Virgin, and don't have access to daily massages at work, here are a few effective ways I have come up with for letting my mind wander throughout the day:

Take a small walk. If I'm really stuck and just need some new scenery, I will take a small walk around the office. If you have the luxury of getting outside for your mini-break, even better. Just stretching the legs and getting the body moving helps to get the blood flowing.

Go for a potty break. All bathroom jokes aside, but I sometimes get my best ideas hanging out in the ladies room. Maybe it's the fact that I actually have some peace and quiet in there without any disruptions that clears my mind, but for some reason it works. Try it, you just might be surprised!

Find a great view. I'm lucky that my office sits on the 15th floor, with a view to die for! Taking a few minutes to look outside and see what is happening all around me helps clear my mind. (And watching sailboats on the sea doesn't hurt either!) Not everyone has such a view, but find a place that you enjoy looking at to free your mind of work.

Sometimes it's the little things that make a huge difference in our workday and performance. To be at the top of your game, you need to take care of your mind and body. It might sound silly to most, but daydreaming is just one of the little nuggets that add tremendous value to our day — and that's coming from a notorious daydreamer!

Edited by: Lawyer Asad

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

The Most Powerful Affirmations Ever Created

The Most Powerful Affirmations Ever Created

Source: MindCastr

Affirmations are simple, yet powerful phrases you can repeat to yourself throughout the day in order to reprogram your conscious and subconscious mind.

They can greatly facilitate the replacement of limiting beliefs with ones that more accurately reflect your true divine nature and support a life of greater health, happiness, abundance and awareness.

The Most Powerful Times of the Day to Repeat Affirmations

Immediately upon waking in the morning. The second you open your eyes, begin to repeat your affirmations to yourself. This will set the tone for your day. Furthermore, immediately upon waking, you still have greater access to the subconscious mind, which will help facilitate the transformation of your beliefs. You may want to create some sort of reminder and keep it next to your bed as it can be difficult to remember the affirmations after intense dreams.

Immediately prior to going to sleep. Setting intentions before you go to sleep allows you to work with and internalize them in the expanded state of awareness we access in the dream state. We go deep into our subconscious minds while dreaming and a well timed affirmation just prior to dozing off can more easily penetrate the barriers that normally keep us from accessing this part of our mind.

During and immediately following meditations. Meditating allows us to shut off the thinking mind and access deeper levels of awareness and focus. In this expanded, receptive state, simple suggestions are far more powerful than normal and can penetrate and alter our limiting beliefs more easily. 

Whenever you remember throughout the day. The only caveat here is to not overuse the affirmations, as you risk them losing their power and meaning. You must be open to and ready for a shift in your beliefs and awareness, otherwise no amount of repetition will change that fact. These affirmations are profound spiritual truths and they should be treated with respect. Explore them, learn from them, and internalize them.

1. I have unlimited abundance available to me always.

All you need to do is realize this and accept it into your life. Examine how you may be cutting yourself off from it through conscious/subconscious beliefs. The universe is infinitely abundant and provides us with everything we could ever need. Only we have the ability to cut ourselves off from this through limiting beliefs.

2. I am the creator of my reality.

You are the creator of your reality and no one else. However, until you become conscious of this fact and begin to work with it, you are giving your power to others and letting forces outside yourself strongly influence and define your reality, and so the illusion of not having full control is perpetuated. Only when you are ready to take full responsibility for everything you have created in your life, will you be able to take full control over it.

3. I love and accept myself just as I am.

Everything is perfect, always. You are not excluded from this. Where you are in your spiritual development and awareness in this moment, is perfect. There is no better than or less than, only what is. And so everyone and everything is also perfect, no matter how dark and no matter how light.

4. I am loved and supported by the universe.

As an aspect of the Creator/God, you are unconditionally loved and supported. All are loved unequivocally and equally. The degree to which you experience this in your life is a reflection of the openness you have to this love. Again, only you can choose to cut yourself off from this and only you can choose how open to the love you are.

5. I am a powerful spiritual being.

Do not underestimate your power. Do not believe all that you have been told about what you are capable of. Society, well meaning friends, family, and loved ones, mainstream science and the media may all tell you otherwise, but pay no heed to their words, for you, and they too, are infinitely powerful spiritual beings. We are all at various stages in the process of remembering this truth — the truth that we are indeed capable of anything we put our focus, will and mind to.

6. I attract exactly what I need effortlessly.

Life is as easy as you allow it to be. If you are having difficulties, ask yourself why you are creating these for yourself? What lesson do you need to learn? What limiting belief is keeping you from attracting exactly what you need effortlessly? Be brutally honest with yourself — anything less is only holding YOU back, no one else.

7. I have the ability to create and achieve whatever I desire.

It is your birthright. The Creator/God created humankind in its image and so you too are given the power to create whatever it is you desire. And so you do, whether you are aware of it or not. As you become more aware of your true power and begin to take greater responsibility for it, so too will you begin to wield greater power over your creations.

8. I am a spiritual being having a physical experience.

Everything originates from spirit. Do not lose sight of the forest for the trees. Always maintain a higher perspective on the events occurring at any given time. This will help to keep you from getting lost and sucked into the illusion of duality and separateness. Let your higher self/intuition guide you and you will never be led astray.

9. I am at peace with the world around me and the world is at peace with me.

As a powerful creator being, your have the choice as to what relationship you choose to have with the world around you. Do you choose conflict and separateness, or oneness and peace? Become aware of how you approach life and your day to day interactions, as the world around you simply reflects back to you what frequency you are broadcasting. If you are unhappy with how the world is treating you, then change your personal perceptions and watch the world transform before your eyes.

Edited by: Lawyer Asad

How to Be More Interesting

How to Be More Interesting

By Eric Barker / Source: Time Magazine

I've posted a lot of research from experts on getting people to like you, being influential and having great conversations.

What's the best way to use all this information to be more interesting?

1) First, Don't Be Boring

Sometimes the best offense is a good defense. Look at it like the Hippocratic Oath of conversations: Do no harm. We're all terrible at realizing when we bore others because, well, we all think we're just fascinating.

The #1 tip for never boring anyone comes from Scott Adams: Be brief, be positive. If you're always to the point and stay upbeat, it's extremely hard for anyone to accuse you of being poor company.

But sometimes you do need to speak a little longer to make sure things don't get stilted. The Art of Civilized Conversation offers another good tip: Is anyone asking you questions about what you're saying?

If not, maybe it's time to end the story or ask the other person a question.

2) The Most Captivating People Are Often Good Listeners

Impressing people can be great but it can also devolve into status jockeying, one-upmanship and envy.

People love to talk about themselves and there are a dearth of good listeners. Let the other person talk. It gives their brain as much pleasure as food or money:

Talking about ourselves—whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money…

You can make an excellent impression by saying amazingly little. Ironically, the people we like the most often say the least.

3) Talk About The Other Person's Interests

This is straight from Dale Carnegie and if you're not that socially adept, this is as straightforward as it gets.

Why struggle to guess what most people might find generically interesting? Ask people what they've been up to or what their hobbies are. Then talk about that. You're now 80% of the way there.

If you know about the subject the similarity will bond you. If you don't, ask them to explain and be a great listener as they talk about something they love.

4) Have Three Good Stories

Comedians don't just talk about anything when they're onstage. They have their act rehearsed. You don't just trot into a job interview and say whatever's on your mind. Always have three good stories on hand that reliably entertain, inform or engage.

Another tip from Scott Adams: People are generally more interested in stories about people rather than things.

Drama, gossip and reality TV are successful for a reason. We all find human behavior fascinating. On the other hand, most people don't want to hear about the features on your new iPhone.

5) Don't Forget Charisma

It's not all about the words. Some people are engaging but if what they said was transcribed, it would be unimpressive.

When you're speaking emotionally, the words only account for 7% of what get conveyed. Seven percent. Voice tone and body language are far more important.

Via The Heart of Social Psychology: A Backstage View of a Passionate Science:

One often quoted study (Mehrabian & Ferris, 1967) found that of all the information conveyed to another person when we say something that is emotional (not informational), only 7 percent is contained in the actual meaning of the words we use.

Laugh. Smile. Be passionate. Gesture. Modulate your voice. Don't just sweat the words.

6) Be Somewhere Interesting

Got a say in where you'll be at, as with a date or meeting? Pick someplace stimulating. Context matters.

In general, we're lousy about realizing where our feelings are coming from.

Research shows excitement from any source is often associated with the person you're with — even if they're not the cause of it.

Why do people find musicians so captivating? The music and the crowd stimulates emotions — and we viscerally associate those with the band.

MIT Behavioral Economist Dan Ariely recounts a relevant study he did:

Why does this happen? Ariely thinks it might have something to do with "misattribution of emotions": "Sometimes we have an emotion and we don't know where it's coming from, so we kind of stick it on something that seems sensible." In other words, your strong feelings about the music might make you think you're having strong feelings about the lead singer.

7) And Most Importantly: Live An Interesting Life

Remember the theme of Don Quixote: If you want to be a knight, act like a knight.

If you don't read, watch and think about generic things, generic things are less likely to come out of your mouth. This doesn't need to be expensive or difficult. Hang out more often with the most interesting people you know. The friends you spend time with dramatically affect your behavior — whether you like it or not.

The Longevity Project, which studied over 1000 people from youth to death had this to say: The groups you associate with often determine the type of person you become.

In The Start-up of You, Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha talk about how the best way to improve particular qualities in yourself is to spend time with people who are already like that.

The best and most reliable way to appear interesting is to live an interesting life. And to pursue that ends up being far more rewarding than merely making a good impression on others.

Edited by: Lawyer Asad

Sunday, April 26, 2015

3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Are Hijacking Your Success

3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Are Hijacking Your Success


By Eric Taller, Creator of 
Thought Elevators

Sometimes the only things standing between you and success are a few lies.

In fact, it's the lies we tell ourselves that most often keep us from our dreams. Maybe we're afraid of success, maybe we don't think we deserve it, or maybe we don't think it's possible. Whatever the reason, if you get rid of the lies, pretty soon you'll watch your dreams turn into your reality.

Here are unquestionably the 3 worst lies you tell yourself that are hijacking your success:

1."I don't know where to start."

I'm going to let you in on a little secret: nobody "knows" where to start. Steve Jobs didn't have anybody telling him exactly which step to take first. Donald Trump didn't drag his feet because he didn't know which property to buy first.

Successful people stop telling themselves they don't know where to start, and they make a decision. 

Have you ever heard "perfect is the enemy of good?" This is exactly what that's talking about. If you wait until you have the perfect plan, you'll miss hundreds of good plans that could have got you what you wanted.

If you want to see your dreams made real, you've got to stop telling yourself you don't know where to start.

2. "I don't have any money."

Listen up: you don't need money to become a millionaire. You don't even need to be brilliant. Look at Richard Branson. He started Virgin Records as teenager, when he was flat broke. He's now worth $4.9 billion. And here's the kicker: he has dyslexia.

If a dyslexic teenager with no money can become a billionaire, then you can stop telling yourself that being broke is an excuse.

And faster than you ever thought possible, you won't have to think twice about your expenses – you'll have enough money to live the high life.

3. "I can't do this on my own."

Sometimes you hear about great mentors who change people's lives, and then you look around and wonder where your mentor is. The sad fact is, not everyone finds one. But here's the good news: people reach their dreams without mentors every day. Think about it: Whatever your goal, the very first person to reach that goal didn't have a mentor. So you know it's possible.

Here's how to do it on your own:

Make Steve Jobs your mentor. Make Richard Branson your mentor. Hell, make Albert Einstein your mentor.

If you can figure out what they did to be successful, you'll see your deepest desires come true faster than you thought possible.


Actually, success experts have recently uncovered some uncanny similarities in what makes people like Steve Jobs successful…

It turns out, most millionaires, successful artists, and people living their dreams have one thing in common…

…and it's not "hard work."

They share a little-known secret about the brain.

If you're interested, check out this free presentation to see how you can use their secret to make your own dreams become reality.

Edited by: Lawyer Asad

Thursday, April 16, 2015

How to Use Autosuggestion to Reach Your Goals

How to Use Autosuggestion to Reach Your Goals

By Greg Frost, 
Creator of 
Quantum Success Secrets

Autosuggestion is a technique of mind training generated from each individual, which allows the subconscious mind to accept positive thoughts and goals, and from there engage its dormant power in achieving those goals.

Sounds hard? With the following techniques, you will be well on your way to training the subconscious mind with autosuggestion too.

Autosuggestion is founded on the theory of repetition. The constant repetition of positive thoughts is used for setting goals, and allows for a direct link between the conscious and subconscious mind, allowing the subconscious mind to affect the conscious mind.

Through this repetition process of positive affirmations, the subconscious mind is able to seek out the best possible way to reach the goal, as it is unable to reason or logic. This is where its power lies.

The importance of training the subconscious mind with autosuggestion is that the mind is susceptible to both positive and negative thoughts. Without consciously activating the subconscious mind to focus on positive thoughts, you risk allowing negative thoughts to infiltrate into the subconscious which will work towards ensuring that it is real.

Below are some simple techniques you can start using today.

1. Repeating Affirmations

This can be done in your mind or spoken aloud, but it is essential to repeat the positive affirmations everyday. This can be done ideally in the morning or right before bedtime, as it allows the subconscious to continue working on it even whilst you are sleeping.

2. Writing down your Affirmations

By writing down your affirmations, it is a reinforcement process that forces your mind to focus on it. By imprinting the importance of these affirmations in your subconscious, you are allowing it to be accepted and acted upon. It is also useful to leave the list in prominent areas such as your work space so that you are constantly reminded of positive thoughts.

3. Listening to a self-recorded tape

Over time, you will find that it is more than sufficient to listen to your voice repeating the affirmations. It will then be less important to consciously think of your positive affirmations.

4. Someone you Admire

Pick out traits that you admire, or even a person whom you wish to emulate. Identify what characteristics you are aiming towards, and include them in your positive affirmations. This will give you a concrete goal to work towards.

The subconscious mind is a powerful tool that can work both ways if not properly trained. Once you decide on a path of action, the subconscious mind will guide you through it to achieve your end goal, manifested by the communication between the conscious and the subconscious mind. 

Edited by: Lawyer Asad


Saturday, April 4, 2015

20 Things You Need To Let Go To Be Happy

20 Things You Need To Let Go To Be Happy

By Ashley Fern / Source: Elite Daily
Everyone has one common goal in life: to achieve true happiness. The biggest factor holding us back from achieving our dreams is, simply and sadly, our own selves. We put limitations on ourselves everyday, whether intentionally or unintentionally. There are so many ways we can alleviate these restraints.
Remember, life can either be something you embrace or something you hide from. Stop making things complicated and just live your life. It would be so much simpler and more enjoyable if we learned to just release certain limitations.
Let's take a look at the things you need to let go of in order to become a happier person.

1. The Approval Of Others

Who gives a sh*t what other people think? If you are happy with the decisions you have made, then whose business is that but your own? Think of how much you could achieve if you stopped letting other people's opinions dictate the way you live your life. Do you, and engage in whatever actions you think might better your life.

2. Anger/Resentment

Anger will eat at you from the inside. Learn how to make peace with those who have wronged you. This isn't about letting the other person off the hook; it's about alleviating the pain that resonates within you. Keep in mind that he who angers you, controls you.

3. Negative Body Image

There is only one person's opinion you should be concerned with when it comes to your body and that is you. No one person determines what the "correct" body type is. If you are comfortable in your own skin, and you are healthy, then that should be the only thing that matters. Do not let others tell you that you're not beautiful because if you believe you are, then you are.

4. Idea Of A Perfect Partner

There is no such thing as a perfect partner, so throw your checklist out the window. In life, what prevents us from moving forward is looking at the perfect image of a partner we concoct in our minds. Find the right person for you: one that you can love with all your heart, one you feel comfortable with and one that accepts you for the person you are. The sooner you realize there isn't one perfect person out there for you, the better off you will be.
"He's not perfect. You aren't either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn't going to quote poetry, he's not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don't hurt him, don't change him, and don't expect for more than he can give. Don't analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he's not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don't exist, but there's always one guy that is perfect for you." – Bob Marley

5. Perfect Life

Just like there is no perfect partner, there is also not a perfect life. Life is what you put into it, so if you are not willing to work hard and put forth effort, you will most likely end up miserable. The choices you make will directly reflect the life you lead. It is up to you to create the best possible world for yourself.

6. You're Going To Be Rich

Too many people live their lives with the thought that they will be millionaires. While this can be a realistic goal for some, it is not something that can be achieved without hard work and dedication. Stop letting money be your sole motivator; find a career you are passionate about and immerse yourself in it completely.

7. The Idea That Good Fortune Will Arrive At Your Doorstep

You need to go out into the world and actively look for fulfillment. You cannot take a backseat in life and expect things to happen for you. Appreciate the life you live, and be grateful for what you have. Value each minute of every day. Live like there's no tomorrow, and make the most out of any situation.

8. Excuses

Make no time for excuses. You want to work out, but you don't have the time? Wake up early and get your gym on. Excuses are only rationalizations that make you feel better about yourself for not doing something you want/need to be doing. You desire results? Stop bitching, and start doing.

9. Thoughts Of Your Ex

This person is your ex for a reason. If you are going to think of him or her at all, try and think only about the lessons the experience taught you. Do not linger on any old feelings, as this will only prevent you from being happy with someone else in the future.

10. Stubbornness

I know it's hard to admit, but sometimes you are just wrong. Other people have just as much capability as you do in providing the correct answer, so stop being stubborn and just embrace it. The less stubborn you act, the more open you are to learning new things. Think of all you could be exposed to if you stopped believing in opinions other than your own.

11. Procrastination

Stop thinking you will finally get to whatever task is at hand tomorrow. Live in the present, and get your sh*t done when it needs to be done. Maximize your time to the best of your ability. Complete each task you need to as soon as you can. This allows you to feel free from worry and stress by getting things out of the way as soon as possible. You also allow yourself more free time to enjoy the things you love.

12. Your Baggage

We have all been hurt one time or another by someone we loved, or we thought we loved. Carrying negative feelings into future relationships will only prove to be disastrous. No two people are the same, so it's unfair to hold a future partner to a standard set by an ex. Try to begin each new relationship with a clean slate.

13. Negativity

What you put out into the universe will come back to you, so change the way you think, immediately. Stop thinking of life as a glass half empty, but rather, half full. You have so much to be grateful for, if only you took a moment to appreciate it. Anything is possible in the mind of a positive thinker.

14. Judgmental Thoughts

Why do people feel the need to constantly worry about what is going on in other people's lives? If we spent as much time worrying about our own behaviors as we do worrying about those of others, our lives would be a whole lot more meaningful. You have no idea what is going on in another person's life, so who are you to pass judgment on the way they act?

15. Jealousy

Happiness is not having what you want; it's wanting what you have. Stop envying others and learn to appreciate what you have. Everyone's life is unique; you have certain things to offer that others cannot. When we act in a jealous manner, all we do is bring negative feelings into our lives. There is absolutely nothing to gain from behaving this way.

16. Insecurity

Happy people tend to have extremely high levels of self-esteem. They accept who they are and work it everyday of their lives. They radiate confidence, flaunt their pride and give off positive vibes. There is no reason to be insecure in life. If there are things you are self-conscious about, go out into the world and seek to change them. Only you have the ability to create the best version of yourself.

17. Depending On Others For Happiness

At the end of the day, the only person you can count on 100 percent of the time is yourself. Do not make the unfortunate mistake many people do and put your happiness in the hands of others. A relationship is not going to fulfill the void if you can't even make yourself happy. You need to achieve happiness on your own before you can find someone else to share it with. This creates a detrimental dependency that will prevent you from becoming self-sufficient.

18. The Past

Stop living in the past! There is virtually nothing you can gain if you wallow in mistakes you have previously made. Take past mistakes as lessons learned, and move forward. You cannot wholeheartedly move on to a better future if you are constantly looking behind you. Things happened, and that's that. Take them with a grain of salt and move on.

19. The Need For Control

Sometimes you just need to let life happen the way it is meant to. You cannot spend your life stressing about things that are outside of your control. Try to relax, and let things play out naturally. Embrace the unknown, as this is where you will be surprised the most. Let yourself be whisked into unforeseen endeavors, and relish in the excitement they bring.

20. Expectations

Managing your expectations is the key to happiness. If you let go of expectations, you will never be disappointed. Often, we tend to believe that the way we treat others will be the way we are treated in return. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. Do not expect a certain result from any given situations. Go into an experience with an open mind. This will allow you to fully immerse yourself, without the pressure of living up to preconceived notions.
Edited by: Lawyer Asad